Now, let's get to the good stuff. As I already mentioned, this past month has been a busy one. Due to a breakup. Yes, I am going there. At first I was reluctant to write anything about this topic but then I thought that if I could help anyone through this post it would be worth it.
Let me paint the picture: (Press play above - it makes this all so very dramatic).
Four years. Love. Happiness. Laughs. Memories. Then- CRASH BANG POW! It's all erased in a second. You walk in to find your other half with someone else - behind your back. You find out how many there have been. You want to throw up. It's been a year of lying, deceiving, manipulation, hidden unhappiness and pretending. The heart breaks. It burns. It cries. Time to let yourself go. Cry. Scream. Pain. Then the numbness drapes you. That wears off soon enough...
Though everyone's situations may differ and reasons as to why it must end may change, the choice always remains, do I stay or do I go? Can we work it out? In my case, the trust was lost and without trust, there is nothing. Ladies and gentlemen alike, if your mate ever decides it is ok to deceive you - there, at THAT moment - that is when they decide they do not care about you anymore and that you and the relationship are not worth their time, effort or commitment. That is when you must begin the process of separation and healing.
The process is not pleasant. There is a lot of back and forth. There is a lot of doubt and realization. But it must take its course. Everyone experiences it differently. Here was my course (I am guessing on 9 & 10 at this point, but I can only assume).
1) shock
2) disbelief
3) blame
4) sadness
5) hope
6) anger
7) revenge
8) acceptance
9) loneliness
10) moving on (aka happiness)
The best thing to know is that you are not alone. This has happened many times in the course of this earth's history. To millions. Billions even. People have made a living solely on it (your listening to one of them sing). You will survive. You will live. You will learn. You will become wiser and stronger, even though it may seem as though your life and world has fallen apart. You will fall to pieces but you will also find the strength to pick yourself back up and put yourself back together. You will find the strength to move on.
Surround yourself with family, friends and positivity. Do things for YOU and make sure you satisfy yourself from the inside out. Go on a vacation. Blow some of your savings. Have some fun and live on the edge. Enjoy the freedom. But please, please make sure you know how much you are worth and what you deserve. You deserve better than this. You deserve unconditional love, trust, happiness, a love and life with abandon. Life is too short to waste on negativity, depression and self pity. YOU ARE PERFECT FOR SOMEONE OUT THERE. You just haven't found them quite yet. Have faith.
It may take a few weeks, months or even years but the wound will mend and heal and you will find yourself happy again. I promise. And I don't break promises.
So, in conclusion, though this is not a fun thing to go through, you would be surprised how many people have gone through this already and have survived. Sometimes twice, I would know. Keep the faith alive, think positively, love yourself and good things will come.
xo
JB
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